The etiquette of full swap

Posted on 06. Oct, 2009 by in Sex, Swinging

When we got the email before our second date, the female half of the “fit” couple asked if we would be ok with full swap. Roxy and I had done it before, had sex with other people in front of each other.  We like it, the excitement it adds to our own sex and passion, but to be asked up front, that was different. Of course we quickly discussed it and were ok with it, but at the same time I found it nice that they asked in advance. Rather than wait until we were naked, fooling around and doing things together they set it up with us so that we knew what to expect in advance.

The etiquette of swinging is interesting.  You are planning on fucking someone else’s partner so how polite do you need to be?  I guess it makes sense to be as polite as possible so as to make sure that when you are naked and deep in action, there is one less thing to talk about.  It feels better to talk about the intimate limits of what you want to do while you can think straight and not have to deal with it in real time. Imagine having another woman say she wants to fuck you in front of your wife when you and your wife hadn’t necessarily discussed the limits of your encounter in advance?

Simply put – be open. Be honest. Be up front.  Most importantly, share your limits with your partner and with the other couple with whom you plan on playing.  This will simply let your encounters flow without the risk of having to stop the action to negotiate the rules.

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  • http://www.StrayTogether.com/ Jill

    Great advice – communication is number 1!

    Fondly,
    Jill

    http://www.StrayTogether.com

  • http://www.StrayTogether.com Jill

    Great advice – communication is number 1!

    Fondly,
    Jill

    http://www.StrayTogether.com

  • http://wherewegetoff.blogspot.com/ Dharma

    Honestly, I’m still finding the whole working-out-the-details-before-hand part of swinging really uncomfortable.

    I know it’s what we’re supposed to do so that no one is second-guessing, everyone is on the same page, etc., but I get super-anxiety about setting the expectation before hand…I mean, how awkward would it be to get in the moment and realize I didn’t feel down with it anymore? That would be a total mood-killer, for sure, among other things.

    Still working on the open communication with outside people I don’t know very well, although Greg and I have no real communication issues about it, thankfully.

  • http://wherewegetoff.blogspot.com Dharma

    Honestly, I’m still finding the whole working-out-the-details-before-hand part of swinging really uncomfortable.

    I know it’s what we’re supposed to do so that no one is second-guessing, everyone is on the same page, etc., but I get super-anxiety about setting the expectation before hand…I mean, how awkward would it be to get in the moment and realize I didn’t feel down with it anymore? That would be a total mood-killer, for sure, among other things.

    Still working on the open communication with outside people I don’t know very well, although Greg and I have no real communication issues about it, thankfully.