Soccer Dad and I are off to another swingers party this weekend filled with couples we know and many we don’t.  So how do we know a swinger’s party will be worth the trip and the price of admission if we have no idea if there will be anyone there we want to fuck? We don’t.

Vanilla couples may never completely understand swinging.  The lifestyle is based on looks, confidence, and sexual prowess.  You can be a perfectly nice person, and even attractive, but that doesn’t mean I want to have sex with you just because I arrive at a swinger’s party with a choker that reads, “I love cock.”  Swinger parties or clubs are similar to regular bars on Saturday nights: They’re meat markets, except for married folks.

Like a normal party for a single person, the potential looks, shape, confidence, and sexuality of sex partners who may be at the party keep me excited about going. The problem is that it’s impossible to call dibs on potential hotties, and the likelihood that there will be a buffet of people I want to sleep with is slim.  Swingers are on an equal playing field in this respect. Ms. Seasoned Swinger can’t call dibs on the only Tall Dark and Handsome man at the party, thus leaving hottie Soccer Mom stuck with some newbie couple who isn’t ready to do anything but cause drama which is only exacerbated by Soccer Mom’s copious amount of alcohol consumption. No. At a swinger’s party, it is every man, woman, and dildo for herself.

Attending swinger events is always hit or miss.  You can drive 30 minutes to find a private club full of hotties or people who don’t spark even the smallest crotch fire in your pants.  Again, it’s much like going to a regular singles bar in this respect. The entrance into most private clubs is quite expensive, usually somewhere between $50 and $100, partly because your chances of getting laid with a stranger are much higher than at a regular bar with a $5 cover.  I love my husband dearly, but we can have sex for free at home.  If we drive an hour away, pay a high admission price, we want to have sex with someone different.  After all, that’s the point of swinging.

The best resolution to this continual dilemma is to plan to meet a couple at a party or club.  This doesn’t ensure a good time, but it certainly increases your chances!

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