We needed to have our first experience to learn what we wanted in this lifestyle. Were we fine with full swap, soft swap, same room, everyone touching each other? What we concluded is that C and I love being together, with everyone involved. We find it sexy when numerous hands and tongues all being used. Although our first time was not mind-blowing we definitely grew from it, which is the most important thing. Read on and you will see what I mean.
Sometimes finding people in life that are experienced in things that interest you draws you close to them. Whether it is as a career mentor, an expert in your hobby or perhaps a couple who have been in the “lifestyle” for some time, it is natural to be drawn to them. That is what happened when we met the “experienced couple”.
Every once in a while couples need to change it up, and not always by adding in extra people to the mix. Simply doing things that are out of the normal routine of life can have incredible results when it comes to trying to maintain freshness and excitement in a marriage. On Friday night, Roxy and I decided to play tourist in our own city of Toronto.
We found them online through a dating site and made plans to meet for dinner. They were attractive, both dressed very casual (though we were a little more dressed up), professionals, two kids…so much seemed to be aligned. Could they be our first?
A new exploration of sex has lead me to find ways to please myself and my husband in our bedroom. I have found lots of new toys and classes. It is amazing how many resources are available if you only look. It is also great to see how many other women in their 30′s and 40′s are not willing to have a mediocre sex life, with a partner or alone (masturbation for women – it so underrated).
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