The question that continues to come up is whether or not monogamy is “natural” for humans. I think that the bigger question is where does the monogamy exist in the relationship? Having more than one wife or husband may not be practical in our society but perhaps when it comes to sex it may be a different story.

My husband and I have been married 10 years (minus one month…..close enough!) and together for 14 years. During this time we have had many ups and downs, as all couples together this long have experienced. The difference is that during our down time we did not make each other a priority. Our kids, careers, family and friends took priority, without even knowing it. This in turn allowed us to become distant, in all aspects, especially sexually.

After being with one person for several years it is easy to get too comfortable and bored. Boredom can lead to discontent and negative views regarding your partner. This can lead to a need to fill a void, ultimately leading to adultery.

The high number of troubled marriages and today’s divorce rates are proof for the above. There is a false sense of “connecting” with another person because it is new and exciting and different. This creates greater gaps in your marriage, making it easy to continue in the lie that becomes so “real”. So how can we avoid affairs and stop lying to our partner to have the greatest marriage ever

When talking about an affair the issue of morality and commitment must be addressed. We need to honor these two components in our marriage and not take them for granted. So how do you do it? Can you really create the excitement and intrigue in your sex life in a long term relationship, can you really get past an affair and have the best commitment marriage…..I say yes.

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